After picking out the best online dating and completing the profile, you get to the heart of the matter ‘the search’ and the principle is always the same look, read and if it’s a good match, write a message. But what is important when it comes to the first message? What is right, wrong, or simply inappropriate?

You should read the profile of the desired candidate beforehand and this will make the first message very simple as the things to talk about will come to you naturally. Try as much as possible to refer to the things the person has included in his profile. You can talk about something the person has written about or to his or her profile picture. This also shows how important it is to select a good profile picture; it provides more opportunities to initiate a conversation.

Lastly, you should avoid shyness at this point. Acting shy will not go well with online dating. There is no reason for someone to be shy since everyone using online dating sites and apps know that the other registered users are likewise looking for a partner and would appreciate every message and opportunity to flirt.

First Message Do’s

  • Creativity
  • Honesty
  • Just do it mentality
  • Authenticity
  • Reading the profile beforehand

First Message Don’ts

  • Lying
  • Acting shy
  • Asking questions that the profile already provides answers to
  • Boring